Self Love.

Disclaimer: This one is going to be very informal.

This topic is so hot lately. Everyone is talking about it. People ask you if you love yourself or not. Somehow, most of you answer it affirmatively.

We are so confused about what self-love is. I was on a quest to find out what self-love is. For the past 5 months, I was looking for its definition and ways to execute it.

Initially, in this journey to find the meaning of self-love, I used to ask myself, “Don’t we all, already, love ourselves?“.
If not, isn’t it funny that we are the only person who we are going to spend all our time with, so if we don’t love ourselves already, what is wrong with us?

So, one day, I was watching a video by Goalcast on YouTube, in which the speaker, Adam Roa, was talking about self-love. He said, “Treat yourself like how you would treat someone you love.”

This kind of stuck with me.

• We all want the best things to happen to the people we love. When they find flaws in themselves, we overlook them and tell them how good they are in themselves and what all great things they have and do which are unique to them.

We don’t do that to ourselves.

• When they worry about things, we tell them how superficial and delusional those thoughts are. We motivate them and inspire them.

We never do that to ourselves.

• As quick as we are in celebrating others’ victories and remarkable feats, we forget, what an epic and masterful piece of art we are.
• We criticise ourselves. Put pressure on ourselves of others’ insecurities and expectations when we are the ones who hold hands of our loved ones in their toughest period.

We need to have positive self talk with ourselves. We need to accept our flaws and seek the best for ourselves because nobody in this world will care about you as much as you can do. And if you already aren’t caring about yourself, you need to change that processing.

Pat yourself on the back for doing so good till now and surviving 100% of your days.

Love yourself enough to dare on achieving your goals.
We want our loved ones to achieve their goals. We help them in doing so, motivating them towards it.
We need to do that to ourselves.

‘I’ should be your first priority.

Because without serving yourself first, you can’t ever be enough for the world.

Look after your health. See what you eat. Look after the data you consume because that is going to transform you into the ‘You’ of the future. Think, if you will be able to love the future ‘You’. Your current habits decide your future.

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Even after knowing so much, I was feeling as if something was missing.

So, about a week ago, I was listening to ‘Under The Skin‘ by Russell Brand which featured Jay Shetty. I have always admired Jay. Tbh, I listened to it for Jay. His thoughts are moving.

So, getting back to the podcast, they were talking about SELF-LOVE. Jay took us through his beautiful philosophy.

He asked, how do we fall in love with people? Don’t worry. He answered it himself.

‘By asking themselves questions about them, by spending time with them, talking about their biggest goals, deepest fears and concerns, pet peeves, achievements, glories, favourite food, books, movies, characters, and then get to know their friends and family’

Self-love is directly related to self-awareness.

We need to ask ourselves important questions. What we want to do, what we love to do, who do we like, what is right for our mental, emotional, physical and spiritual health, what do we value and leave everything behind.

We need to back our goals and ourselves.
Work towards your best health, mindset, spiritual growth, financial growth and enjoy the journey.

When we align with what we truly are and what we truly want, we tend to leave behind everything which cannot help us to achieve our dreams and find on our journey the best of people and stories thereon. Be it thoughts, people, materialistic goals or any other, when they don’t align, they are out of view. And believe me, it will make you happier than ever.

All of humanity’s problems stem from man’s inability to sit quietly in a room alone.

–Blaise Pascal (French Mathematician)

You have to invest in yourself the money, the resources and most importantly the TIME.

If we don’t work enough on the sculpture called ‘ourselves’, nobody is going to look at us.
–Daksh

Give yourself some alone time every day. Get comfortable with your thoughts. Sit and write a journal about your thoughts and accept them, even if they are not the most positive. Yes, write about your failures and how hard it is for you to move on from incidents and people and thoughts. Write them. Give them clarity. You need to acknowledge it as these are also a part of you.

Robin Sharma says it in the best possible way: “The way to heal a wound is to feel a wound”

We are trying to escape our emotions with screens at our disposal. That’s why, this era is the most distracted era, ever. People have forgotten about self-love and its results.

“Tranquility is the new luxury”

-Robin Sharma

You will be most productive when you are alone.

Block time for yourself. If possible, do it the first thing in the morning. Work for your best health-physical, mental, emotional, financial and spiritual. Make a journal dedicated to yourself.

It will transform all of your relationships.

What you are within reflects without.

• Will it be lengthy?

Yes. How can you fall in love in a day?

• Will it be uncomfortable?

Oh yes. You need to heal your wounds and love every part of your soul. Doesn’t sound easy and cakewalk to me.

• But, the biggest question still being – Will it be worth it?

Yessss. You will thank me. More importantly, you will Love Yourself.

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If you have made it through this long blog post then I am very thankful to you. I am trying to bring a change to this world by inspiring the building blocks of it, that is, you people.

Share it with someone who you love so they can understand more about self-love.

My quest is still continuing. Self-love isn’t definable but is a journey. And I am loving it.